People like to give me advice, mostly because I listen and I really try to apply good advice to my life. I’ve always been that way. People like to help, especially when they have a willing student.
No piece of advice has served me better than a lesson I learned many years ago from my older brother Dennis.
Older brothers like to mess with little brothers- it’s what they do. My big brother could send me into a rage with a smile and a stare. Mostly, he was just trying to bait me into a wrestling match where he would quickly crush me and then take the opportunity to teach me something (my brother is wicked-smart). One lesson had a profound impact on me:
Water off of a duck’s back.
“Try to be more like a duck,” he said. “It’s easy to get under your skin and when that happens, you’ve been beaten. Ever notice how water rolls off a duck’s feathers? If it didn’t, the duck would drown. When people try to get under your skin, let it roll off you like water on a duck’s feathers. It will go much better for you. You’ll maintain your ability to think and you won’t end up in a headlock begging for mercy.”
If not now, when?